When we use the tools and skills we have learned to empower ourselves in therapy we begin to flex that muscle. I've been calling this strength and growth flexing the muscle for years. Every time I have a session and a client shares how they have been flexing that muscle, I smile, and not just a little smile, I glow with happiness. It's an indicator that things are changing, evolving and growing for the client. The client feels the strength to use that muscle and a new chapter has begun, I smile, we smile. This is exactly why I do the work I do. Flex that muscle girl, own your true authentic evolving self.