The do's and do not's after a break up
We all have been there and know that a break up can significantly upset your entire world. For whatever reason the break up may have occurred it still hurts, a lot. How we react and respond significantly affects the way we feel. Some say ok, it's time to figure out what's going on with my ex, checking there social media pages, talking to there friends, finding out the "scoop", but does that really help? Does that make you feel any better, when really asking yourself that question the answer is probably no, so let's change it up. What can we do to help relive the pain and stress involved with a break up? The list below I've created as healthy tips on ways to work through the emotions surrounding a break up, the do's and do not's.
First, and foremost is self care, do self-care: taking care of your self is essential when you're going through a tough time. Whether it's getting a manicure or massage or eating and sleeping well, its all self-care and essential to your wellbeing.
Next, surround yourself with good friends and family, a great support system is essential when you're experiencing being in this vulnerable place.
How about practicing some healthy coping skills? It's essential to your wellbeing and recovery.
Journal journal journal, journaling your emotions can really help to speak to your inner emotions and allow yourself to express your emotions in a healthy manner.
Exercise!!! Get out, walk around, take a class, go to the gym, and increase the endorphins.
Challenging your negative thoughts can also be very helpful to your recovery, challenge this negative thoughts and work towards positive thinking, one step at a time.
Mindfulness, is also extremely helpful, focus on the here and now, takes it slow, one day at a time and is kind to yourself, you deserve it.
Be patient, a break up is like mourning and the grievance process can take time to feeling back to your self.
Now we discussed the do's, what are the do not's?
Do not talk to your ex's friends or follow there social media's this is only a recipe for disaster.
Do not talk shit about your ex to his friends and family, your feeling angry and upset and it's understandable, but having these conversations only draws you into a darker place.
Don't blame!! Blaming becomes a big part of the unanswered questions after a break, but the blame game gets your nowhere fast. So stay away from that negative place and focus on the future, your positive future.
Don't pretend your fine, be true to yourself and your emotions, if you need to cry, let it all out, it's essential to feel your emotions and go through each to reach the road to recovery.
Do not seek revenge, your angry, feels vulnerable and sad, seeking revenge seems natural, but it's not going to have any positive end results, I promise you that, so stick away from the revenge and seek peace instead.
Don't repeat mistakes, don't keep your ex in your life, things change for a reason, and it's better to leave the past in the past, it got there for a reason.
Do not self destruct, your upset and it's understandable but don't go down the road of self destruction, in the end the only one suffering is you, so do the opposite focus on you, what makes your happy and do you.
Do not isolate yourself, you may feel like becoming a hermit, but it's not going to help with the healing process, so do the opposite, surround yourself with a great support system, keep your self busy and happy.
Lastly, don't move on to quickly, take time to your self, creating your own happiness, and again patience is key. It takes time, and as long as the essentials of your well being are practiced things will get easier, and although at first it's hard to believe, with time all wounds will heal.